move on...

Often, so very often we tell others who have been through a tragedy, or a loss, to try to forgive and forget and move on....
Good advice surely it is, but should be uttered only by those very few who actually have done that. Otherwise it stinks of a condescendingly arrogant attitute.
Take the case of the Rawanda genocide.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/4877212.stm

A truly moving personal story. A nightmare to have to live through every day. How do you tell a person like this to move on ? You cant, because you simply dont know what you are talking about... You have never experienced the hell that this person has been through.
The best thing to do is to try to make that person's today happy. Try to put a smile on his/r face and maybe it will help. Giving advice to move on,,,haaa ! easy for you to say...